This is the featured question today on Xanga. It’s a loaded question too.
How do I feel about divorce? I feel sad about it. I feel sad about the people it hurts. I feel bad for the kids who suddenly find themselves joining the “Banana Splits” club at school. I feel sad that there’s a firestorm of blame thrown in every direction.
How do I feel about divorce? I feel liberated by divorce. I feel liberated from a marriage I should have never gotten into. I feel liberated that I got my life back. I feel liberated that I feel like I’d awoken from a ten year coma, and discovered to my shock, that there still is color and joy in the world.
How do I feel about divorce? I feel bitter about divorce. I feel bitter about all the wasted time and energy spent trying to fix a failed marriage. I feel bitter that it kept me tied up and out of circulation so that I had to wait until my God damn 40’s before finding the woman who I should have married in the first place. I feel bitter that I didn’t get to spend all that time with her.
How do I feel about divorce? I feel hopeful about divorce. I feel hopeful that my love will make it through her own and be free. I feel hopeful that getting out of an abusive marriage will liberate her the way it did me. I feel hopeful that her kids will grow to see and be influenced by a healthy relationship, instead of modeling their lives after a dysfunctional one. I feel hopeful that from the ashes of two failed marriages that one absolutely fantastic one will rise like an amazing phoenix to soar and shine.
That is how I feel about divorce.